Gay anon breeding

He is into the kink of anonymous breeding. But learning about his kink threw me, and I want to understand it better. 

— Seeking Enlightening Educational Download 

Before I answer your question, I wanna enter this into the record: Sexual interests and kinks are personal and subjective and one person’s ultimate fantasy is another person’s worst nightmare. 

For gay men of my generation,  the association between getting bred and suffering an early, protracted and punishing death remains a powerful boner killer.

Further, a resistance to most harm-reduction strategies in the United States has disempowered men from making informed choices about the level of risk with which they are comfortable. “It is assumed all guests are HIV+ or have made the decision to attend this kind of party. XtremeSex offers hundreds of personal ads including those from “bug chasers” (men looking to become infected or exposed to HIV) and “gift givers” (men who eroticize infecting or exposing others to HIV).

Hundreds of hours of sucking,

Originally collected by fetching... “This is a bareback party,” the house rules read. Basically, he uses drugs and logs onto Grindr or Sniffies to find sex parties. No one here but me betrays anxiety.

The late writer and porn star Scott O’Hara was the first to lead the barebacking charge. In a mind-boggling feat of symbolic reversal, they have taken the dread and deadliness of the virus and transformed it into desire and regeneration.

Dave, an HIV negative man who once threw himself into the latex-free life for several months, is one example: “I decided to stop barebacking because of the potential health risks -- and not just HIV -- although I definitely feel that latex negatively affects my sex life.” But he says he is still very much drawn to raw sex -- “somewhat like a moth to a flame.” Health concerns that drive guys like Dave back to condoms include such STDs as herpes, hepatitis, gonorrhea and anal warts.

The national AIDS establishment’s polarization of all behavior into either “high risk” or “low or no risk” leaves many gay men -- whose behaviors reside somewhere between these extremes -- unsupported in their sexual decisions.

Distinct from an infrequent slip-up, drunken mishap or safer-sex “relapse,” barebacking represents a conscious, firm decision to forgo condoms and, despite the dangers, unapologetically revel in the pleasure of doing it raw.

“I don't ever wear a blindfold — and most of my friends don't either — but I do like to wear my football helmet which creates the ‘anon’ for me,” said FJB. “Taking vision out of the equation allows me to focus on the feelings and sensations of getting fucked. My questions specifically relate to the experience of the bottom, e.g., the person being bred and taking.

He has spent the last few months telling his friend about HIV and its physical and emotional consequences. Indeed, the questions prevention experts are most frequently asked are not about basic transmission, but rather these “gray areas” -- oral sex, pulling out, pre-come and so on. He arrived at skin-to-skin sex through the practice of negotiated risk (a harm-reduction strategy common outside the United States): He’d been in a series of relationships with men where they both repeatedly tested negative and finally dispensed with condoms.

Sometimes these “breeding sessions” last an entire day. 

I have found your podcast and writings to be helpful when it comes to understanding certain kinks, and I’m wondering if you have some specific insights on this anonymous breeding kink.